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Parent had discovered sexually explicit photos of a middle age male on their 9 year old child’s phone. Later it was discovered the perp had met the child on an “instant messenger site.” He learned the child was 9 and continued. He enticed the child to send nude photos of themselves to him. Later the perp traveled to the apartment complex to have sex with the child where he was arrested.
- THE PARENT HAS GIVEN A 9 YEAR A CELL PHONE THAT ALLOW THEM TO BE ACCESSED BY OVER ONE MILLION PREDATORS.
- THE ARTICLE DOES NOT IDENTIFY THE APP – IT IS VERY LIKELY “KIK.“
- PREDATORS ARE KNOWN TO TROLL THROUGH KIK TO HOOK UP WITH YOUNG PEOPLE WHO MAKE THEMSELVES AVAILABLE.
- THE PERP SENT ILLICIT PHOTOS AND ENTICED THE CHILD TO SEND NUDE IMAGES OF THEMSELVES WHICH THEY DID.
- THIS PERP INTENDED ON ACTING OUT ON HIS CONQUEST.
This is the first official Blog article that is being used to educate others on the Million Kids website. This article was selected because I see this scenario being played out across America every day. It is my desire to help parents and grandparents see the inevitability of this scenario when we hand a 9 year old a device that opens the door to over ONE MILLION predators. I would encourage you to read my book Seduced – The Grooming of America’s Teenagers to see the many ways this goes wrong.
Parents seem to not be able to acknowledge the volatility of this situation. A 9 year has not gone through puberty. The parent has most likely not even had the “Sex Talk” with them yet. Their frontal lobe has not yet begun to develop. Their cognitive reasoning skills are very limited. They are not yet able to visualize (let alone craft a response) to a funny uncle down the street let alone a fake persona of a kiddy porn addict pretending to be a great guy and their new best friend.
The first point in this discussion is ‘WHAT MAKES THIS PARENT THINK THEIR CHILD IS ANY DIFFERENT?” The truth is they DON”T think this out. Most parents function from the stand point of this is the age of technology and I don’t want my kid to be left behind or singled out as a nerd. Many parents are Techno Phobic and some are Techno Impotent. They have not a clue how all of this works. Hopefully Million Kids can change that. But until then……….they are counting on the fact that their kid is a good kid and they will be OK and they will check the phone periodically.
Fortunately, they did that. But not until it was nearly too late. And that is the scenario we see in case after case. By the time the parent can find their way through a phone with apps they don’t know the ACCESS and EXPLOITATION process has already begun.
THE APP – This article simply states it is an Instant Messaging website. It is most likely “KIK” which now has over 200 million users most are young people who are sexting, exchanging provocative and illicit photos and hooking up with complete strangers. After all that is the thrill of KIK. In a recent survey I conducted in a local high school.
- 80% were using KIK
- 80% had received an invitation to hook up from a stranger
- 50% had responded to that stranger
- 3 students had MET UP WITH THAT STRANGER IN PERSON
In the research that I conduct, kiddy porn addicts and perverts troll through KIK looking to ACCESS new prey and pleasure themselves to nude images of teens being traded with friends for fun. These teenagers have no idea that their photos which were intended to entice a lover is being used by perverts to satisfy their kinky urges.
The truly terrifying part of this story is the two way exchange of photos and conversation. This phone has invited a man into their Childs life – a man they would normally never allow to speak to their child let alone invite into their home and the back seat of their car.
Grooming starts with ACCESS and moves to RECRUITMENT. The man won this child’s trust. IMPORTANT POINT. The parents FOUND the photos on the child’s phone. (To our knowledge) The child did not suddenly say, “This man wants naked photos”. The child knows HOW to take the naked photo and send them! And the child is actively engaged with this perpetrator. They most likely seem the perp as a friend that they look forward to talking with.
The next important point is that parents understand that MANY perpetrators are not satisfied with just images. This guy was caught on his way over. We are not sure if the child knew he was coming over or if this was part of a police intervention to catch the perp. But here is a critical and urgent point to parents………..When you hand a 9 year old a cell phone there is a very real possibility that they will hook up with a pervert who WANTS TO DO MORE THAN TALK!
And my final take away from this article.
Yes this ended well. The perp was caught and the child is safe.
BUT IT IS NOT OVER. This child has been exploited. He/She has been educated about what should be normal, healthy sexual encounters by NUDE IMAGES OF a 44 YEAR OLD MALE. And the child understands they have done something wrong and they will experience guilt. How this is handled by the parent is absolutely critical.
This child needs counseling to work through the sexual exploitation and the personal guilt that maybe it is his/her fault. They also need counseling WITH the parent.
This is critical. First the parents need counseling to learn how to enforce appropriate boundaries on the child for cell phone usage or not without rejecting the child and making the child responsible for the whole scenario. The parents put the child in a dangerous situation and the child experienced failure. AND THIS FAILURE IS TIED TO FEELINGS ABOUT SEXUAL SELF WORTH.
How this is handled is critical.